Development But how?

The teacher drew a line on the whiteboard and asked the students: Who among you can shorten this line without touching it and erasing it?

A student immediately said: To shorten this line, some part will have to be erased and you are forbidding touching and erasing, it cannot be shortened.

 

The teacher looked questioningly at the other students and they also nodded their approval. Now the teacher drew a big line equal to this line and said: Tell me now! First line missing or not? Although I haven't even touched it or deleted it! The students said: This is perfect!

 

The teacher placed the marker on the table and began to speak: Today we have learned a very important lesson from the book of life, how to surpass others without harming them, how to earn more respect without degrading them? Teacher! The desire to go ahead of others is included in the psychology of a person, no matter what field and class he belongs to! Be it a student, a businessman, an employee, a sportsman, a doctor, a lawyer, a professor, a writer or anyone else! But if he tries to cut the legs of others to make them shorter instead of increasing his height for his own development, then this is a negative approach, while a positive approach is to improve his skills, characteristics and performance, thus you One can reach the victory stand without devaluing anyone

but alas! It is our social tragedy that the first method is used more to win, eg

A trader tries to damage the reputation and reputation of another trader to make his trade shine.

An employee defames a competitor in order to get a promotion or tries to get him out of a job.

A student wastes another's time to spoil another's result or makes his notes disappear etc. to get a position in exams.

A doctor tries to make his clinic shine by proving other doctors to be incompetent and ineffective.

 

Naat-khwans obstruct the path of other naat-khwans to increase their stature.

A disadvantage of this negative approach is that the person may wake up in the hole they dug for someone and have to give it up.

The second disadvantage is that in order to bring down someone's position, false accusations are made against him, his faults are raised, backbiting is done, and the sins of heartache begin to accumulate in the book of deeds, which the person making conspiracies realizes. It doesn't even happen, he only has the ghost of defeating others on his head! If there is no sense of sins, how will the mind of repentance be formed? How will this person be able to escape from the punishments of the hereafter?

The next period had started, before leaving the classroom the teacher urged: Dear students! Never take a negative approach to progress in life. May Allah protect us from our displeasing actions.

اٰمِیْن بِجَاہِ النَّبِیِّ الْاَمِیْن صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم  

1:,Joint family and child training

1@ Part I:

Mothers in joint family have many problems with children, today I am posting some tips and tricks which will help you in raising children in joint family system.

Attach the child with you, now you are thinking how to do it, the work does not end, so the answer is to engage the child with you from childhood, it will have many benefits:
The child will develop a sense of responsibility, develop confidence, stay away from the screen (TV, mobile), spend time with you, so make it yours, never compare the child with any other child. Doing so creates a sense of inferiority in the child and reduces self-esteem.

Never scold a child in front of others, doing so hurts the self-esteem of children, yes, children have more ego and self-respect than you do not damage them in any way, do not turn children against others or Refrain from doing what someone else has told them to do, it will arouse hatred in the child's mind and at the same time he will be confused, yes, if you don't like that, in a direct way and very carefully. Explain to the child.

 

A child learns the most from his parents, so be very careful from his childhood and keep him attached to you, avoid unnecessary harshness, remember that where there are disadvantages, there are many advantages. Consider the advantages and minimize the disadvantages, explain to the child lovingly and tell in the form of stories whatever you want to explain and tell.

Respect the child, when you respect the child, he will also obey everything you say politely and respectfully, give the children quality time, the children themselves will stay with you.

 ”️ Who is responsible for the deterioration of children?

There are a large number of people who say that our child has become spoiled by living among friends, the outside environment has spoiled him, if the child tells lies, friends teach him, if he misbehaves, friends teach him, if the child abuses, friends teach him. It has been taught, believe me, this thinking is wrong. !!!

In fact, the cause of the deterioration of the child is the failure of the parents to fulfill their duties. From the beginning, the training of the child was considered an important duty. would cause

A child does not join friends as soon as he is born, his friends do not come to pick him up as soon as he is born, he does not start wandering as soon as he is born, he does not catch a cigarette as soon as he is born, for more or less the first ten years, the child is completely attached to his parents. It happens and this is the period where most of the parents show inattention.

When a child is born, his heart and mind are completely blank paper that what he sees and hears will continue to hide on it. If it were to be written down on paper, there would be no space for erasing evils.

When the mother and father instilled their training in the child in the beginning, this child will never be corrupted by meeting with bad people, but will be a cause of reformation for bad people.

In our society, formal phrases are repeated in the name of training, son, it is a bad habit not to lie, it is a bad habit to be rude and these formal phrases never penetrate the child but with great responsibility, consideration and interest. The training carried out by the child is internalized by the child, let's look at the society, every parent teaches the child rote phrases but there is no benefit, and the reason for this is that the training is not concerned, not interested, yes, it will be learned and understood. Ga, is still young, and this thought has sunk the raft.

Mothers are feeding their babies while watching dramas and movies, the baby's feeder is in one hand and the mobile phone is in the other hand, if the baby starts to cry, they will turn on the TV and give the mobile phone to him. They will put on cartoons, if the child starts moving his hands and feet after listening to some music, then a wave of happiness will spread in the whole house. Roaming, limited to mobile Facebook!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Irshad Noori

 

Children always with their elders

We learn to love and hate

Respect and worship also try

Do it in front of the kids

Keep the attitude right